I still heart Chic-fil-a

There has been a lot of controversy lately over one of my most favorite places- Chic-fil-a.  It makes me sad because Christian or not, this is one of the organizations that I feel like is doing it right.  And their chicken is freaking delicious!

A few weeks ago I had the privledge to hear the Chic-fil-a CEO Dan Cathy give a speech about faith in the workplace.  It was excellent and he used so many examples of how Chic-fil-a goes above and beyond for their customers.  Little things that make a big difference.  Things that are done for ALL customers (gay or straight...black or white...Christian or not.)

Even though he may not agree with gay marriage, I know he (and the company) would never, ever discrimate against or treat anyone differently.  Their goal is to please EVERY customer.

You are never going to please everyone all of the time.  And you are never going to agree with everyone.  Does that mean you should hate them?  Boycott them? I feel like the gay community is doing the one thing they are asking everyone not to do.  It really is all very sad.

I meant to blog about this after the event, but got so busy!  Here are some things I jotted down from the Dan Cathy speech I went to:


How many of you are involved in full time Christian ministry?  Are you still a student? 
(His point was you should always be a student- always learning.  And if you are a Christian, you should consider yourself in full-time Christian ministry.)

Reference scripture when you speak to people- pocket Bible.  Be as well versed in your Bible as you are your cell phone. 
(He carried a pocket Bible with him everywhere)

In the first 40 hours, you make your biggest impression of the culture of your organization to a new employee.
(They have a well-developed program for the first week that ingains the company culture in new employees. Yes, it is based on the Christian faith, but is really all about customer service and excellence!)

Not thinking quarter to quarter, but thinking decade to decade or generation to generation.

To glorify God by being a faithful steward of all that is entrusted to us.  To have a positive influence on all who come in contact with Chic-fil-a.
(This is the corporate purpose of Chic-fil-a, the reason the business exists)

"If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles." Matthew 5:41... The first mile is done from the head.  The second mile is done from the heart.
(Don't just do what is expected...what is required. Go that extra mile with people.)

Do anything you can to communicate honor, diginity, and respect to customers.
(They teach employees to carry the tray to the table of mothers with childeren...and they carry it in their left hand so they can pull out the chair for the mom with their right. And it is also why they all say "My pleasure".  Among many other little things.  I think this is a great rule for life in general..to do whatever you can to show honor, respect, and love to people.)

Create "tweetable" moments.
(Not for the sake of word-of-mouth, but just those moments that make someone go "wow...this is unexpected and great")

External service/success is a reflection of internal service/success.
(It starts from inside an organization- how they treat their employees)

They had a lot of owner/operators come up at the end and say how they started with Chic-fil-a and how long they had been with the company.  All of them had been with Chi-fil-a forever!  Some of them 20+ years. That is a reflection of a great organization.  I have a good friend that works for Chic-fil-a and loves it and wants to stay there for life.  And I don't blame her.

I think Christians in gereal are misunderstood sometimes.  Yes, there are bad apples who use Christianity to spread hate and bigotry.  But those people DO NOT KNOW JESUS.  They are clinging to religion (very different from loving Jesus and making him lord of your life) and really I don't get them at all.  True Christians don't want to shove their beliefs down your thoat.  They want you to know Jesus.  The amazing gift that God has given us.  They want to show His love to all they come in contact with.  Because they want you to know Him too!  Desperately.  Because it is the best news of their life and they want that for you too.

And they know that salvation comes from God alone.  Not anything they (or you) do.

They also want to stay faithful and true to His word.  Afterall if you are just following your own opinions and thoughts then you have not made Jesus lord of your life, you are still lord of your life.  I understant the need to be open-minded to others who think differently, but shouldn't that go both ways?  Even when it is against popular opinion?

I blogged about gay marriage a few months ago when we had a huge vote here in NC.  You can see that post here.  I don't want to create controversy, I just think this is such a great organization (regardless of how they feel about gay marriage) so I wanted to share my thoughts and what I had learned about Chic-fil-a at the Dan Cathy speech I had gone to.  I have learned over the years not to cut out people or organizations in my life just because they don't agree with me on one issue out of hundreds and that policy has served me very well and allowed me to become a more tolerant, loving, and open-minded individual.  I wish others could do the same.

Girl Friends

Friendships with girls are tough.  Girls are just a different breed.  We are emotional.  We are controlling.  We like to get what we want (even when we don't exactly know what we want yet).  It has been played out in movies time and time again.  Girls...err and Women are not just 2 dimensional, we have so many dimensions to ourselves we can't even keep up.  Put us with another girl or group of girls and things get complicated fast.

Then throw in even more difficulties, like work friends, or friends we only see a few times a year, friends you haven't seen since college, church friends, and even frenimies...

Urban Dictionary describes frenimies this way:

A "friend" who really doesn't like you, nor you like she, yet you are drawn togther by some sick dramatic bond.

And then if you want to make it even more complicated throw some guys in the mix. They operate on a whole other level and do not get the intricacies and rules of the female friendships but still must give their opinion.  And if one of the guys happens to be single and more than one of the girls likes him...well honey go pop yourself some popcorn because you are sure to get a show.

It does not end in middle school.  It actually gets worse in high school but doesn't end there.  College takes it to a whole new level.  It's still there in your early-twenties as girls claim their turf and cling to their boyfriends.  It's still there in your mid-twenties as you go through the dreaded wedding season when every weekend is booked with yet another freaking wedding.  And it is still there in your early thirties as kids start to enter the picture.  And don't forget about those co-workers.  That's where the drama could happen on a daily basis because you spend so much time there.

But to find a good friend.  A friend that you know has your back and will listen to your random rambling rants.  A friend that you can be yourself with.  Count yourself very lucky.  And if you have more than one of these lucky ladies you are truly blessed!

But what to do with the other ones?  The ones that only pop up when they need something?  The ones that you love but never get to see?  The frenimies?  What do you do with those friendships?  Accept them for what they are?  Know your boundaries with them?  Love them regardless?  Cut them out of your life?

What if you are that friend?  The bad friend?  What then?

Just trying to get some general thoughts and opinions on female friendships of all kind.  Please share your experiences!!

Book Swap and Major Book Review Catch-up

I linked up for a book swap by this dynamic duo- Heather and Katie- a few months ago and it went so well I decided to do it again.  Last time I was paired up with Heather and this time I was paired up with another Heather!

I got not one, but three books!

I've already read The Last Song and The Perfect Elizabeth (oops! I tried to give suggestions for the exchange...I hope Heather hasn't already read the book I sent her) but I have not read The Vow, so I was happy to get that.

These swaps are really fun and I love getting stuff in the mail!  Thanks so much for the books Heather!!

I also did a little catching up on my Bookshelf Blog!  So go check out my reviews of these books!

Nantucket Nights- 4.5 out of 5 stars 

Delirium- 4 out of 5 stars 

Sweet Potato Queens One True Book of Love- 3 out of 5 stars 

50 Shades of Grey- 4 out of 5 stars 

Love Lies 2 out of 5 stars 

Fishbowl- 3.5 out of 5 stars 

I need a vacation

I need a vacation.  And a massage.  I have so much anxiety.  I have so much stuff going on in my head.  We are getting ready to launch this contest on Pinterest at work that I pushed for and am heading up.  I had to beg for funding. And now that it is happening I am afraid it is going to be a complete flop.  And I have a hard time letting go control of stuff.  Like I wish I could do it all but I can't and I have to trust others to do a good job for the project.  I guess this is what all that group work in college was supposed to prepare me for?

And I am having self esteem issues right now.  I am being really sensitive to what people say to me.  They can say one little sentence and I replay it over and over in my head. For weeks.  I take little things people do and blow them up to be "OMG they hate me.  No one likes me." in my head.

I am also having problems sleeping.  I've been up until 3-4 am every night this week.  I've taken 2 ambien on some nights and still not fallen asleep.

All of this has turned me in to a B-I-T-C-H.  I hated the world today.  I was just a pissed off person and not very nice to others.  I swing between that and crying.  It's so wonderful being a girl isn't it?