tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post6005679899021047329..comments2023-09-10T11:36:53.175-04:00Comments on 30 Before 30 List: Everyone will have their own "Sob Story"Suzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08843610173035306667noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post-33293260857303528952009-12-25T10:39:07.982-05:002009-12-25T10:39:07.982-05:00I stumbled upon your blog, somehow, not too sure, ...I stumbled upon your blog, somehow, not too sure, and I liked this post. I helped Holocaust survivors apply for restitution a few years ago and there is an idea of "Hierarchy of Pain" that exists among survivors. This idea essentially is that those in concentration camps suffered worse than those in labor camps or those in prisons. And it seems weird that those who survived such difficulties would make distinctions, guess they do.<br /><br />After all the stories I heard and read, it was obvious to me that pain is pain. Even with the camps, it all depended on when someone went into the camp, who the guards were, the circumstances, etc. It's easy to assume we have it worse than someone else, or our pain is greater. It can be, we all have strong and weak moments in life and I don't know that there is a way to say what's worse for someone than another. Seems far worse to lose your father when you're a small child but I think that losing my parents after having known them for so many years would hurt just as much.<br /><br />Who really knows but I liked your thoughts. Honest and open.LovelyLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05388434218295502388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post-39273487906386074522009-10-09T18:26:21.554-04:002009-10-09T18:26:21.554-04:00I really loved this post. Everyone has bad things ...I really loved this post. Everyone has bad things happen to them. You can't let it define you. You have to (at some point) pick yourself up and keep going because in the end that's all you can do.Optimistic Pessimisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629722877426063916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post-83112067078178257512009-10-07T12:17:30.494-04:002009-10-07T12:17:30.494-04:00So true. Great post.So true. Great post.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08064480768789968492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post-54669990728560332182009-10-07T11:29:51.967-04:002009-10-07T11:29:51.967-04:00Thanks for this. What she said was absolutely awf...Thanks for this. What she said was absolutely awful. But I would imagine that she's speaking out of anger. I hope that some of that heals soon. I know it takes time, but I wouldn't want her pain to define her and shape her into a bitter person.Akirahhttp://www.quarterlifelady.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post-79928362526572233392009-10-07T11:28:22.745-04:002009-10-07T11:28:22.745-04:00Great post. I came across this same scenario when ...Great post. I came across this same scenario when my Dad died. It is so true, we can not say that one persons loss is more than another's. Loss in all forms is so hard to deal with and is so sad no matter who it was in our life. The fact is we lose that someone that we loved so much and it hurts! <br /><br />I'm so sorry for all the loss you have encountered in your life.DreamTNMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17964096987291230086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post-70203389588509471862009-10-07T09:41:29.975-04:002009-10-07T09:41:29.975-04:00I loved this post. You are so right on. Everyone h...I loved this post. You are so right on. Everyone has their own story, and none of us can judge or "one-up" each other's stories. It's about what you do with those stories that makes you.Career Girl Network Marcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565273641369455961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post-81618099452934610462009-10-07T09:26:53.913-04:002009-10-07T09:26:53.913-04:00I thihk you hit the nail on the head when you said...I thihk you hit the nail on the head when you said that she didn't beleive in God. Without God in our lives we are just like her, only thinking of self, stuck in our pain, wrapped in our own missery. But with God in our lives we can care about the grief and loss of others. With God it is not about one upping the other persons pain, but instead about helping that person deal with that pain. God truly does make all the difference.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post-79872614057692500672009-10-07T06:17:32.386-04:002009-10-07T06:17:32.386-04:00Sorry for your loss in high school..and I agree, y...Sorry for your loss in high school..and I agree, your is not less painful because he was a boyfriend vs. a son. I think it would be such an awful shock to experience something like that when you were so young.<br /><br />Perhaps her grief was just overwhelming her....JennyMachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14594526663480442855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post-61457178880926287492009-10-07T02:55:38.016-04:002009-10-07T02:55:38.016-04:00Thanks for the uplifting post... I think it's ...Thanks for the uplifting post... I think it's a great message, although I am so sorry to hear that you've had to endure such loss. <br /><br />I agree that as much as we, as humans, like to make comparisons and look to others' circumstances to understand our own, it really can't and shouldn't be done when it comes to tragedy. Not only is that a bit disrespectful, but there's the simple fact that we all have different levels of resilience, and different levels of attachment to the people we love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821080959374336987.post-10530768154550202062009-10-07T01:22:28.582-04:002009-10-07T01:22:28.582-04:00Since it's late, I can only hope I do justice ...Since it's late, I can only hope I do justice to what you wrote...<br /><br />I'm so, SO sorry about your boyfriend. And I agree - it's really not fair to trivialize someone else's pain. It's not a "one-up" kind of situation.<br /><br />What a beautiful post about remembering what we have to be thankful for and not allowing the negatives in life to overshadow the positives - something that can be so easy to do.<br /><br />Your post came at a perfect time, as I've been down about something, so every morning and every night I force myself to remember five things I have to be thankful for.<br /><br />Fantastic post, Suz. :-)AnnQhttp://www.averagebutnot.comnoreply@blogger.com